"Best Of" Posts on Narcissists Suck

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As mentioned in the last post I'm taking a summer hiatus from blogging. For the benefit of those who are finding my blog in my absence I encourage you to read the posts in the archives. You can either read by month in the order I posted them, or check out the labels in column on the left of the front page for some idea of the various topics covered by posts.

I have assembled here a short list of some of the popular pages of Narcissists Suck based on page hits. I will throw in a few of my choices as well.

Your Narcissistic Mother

Angry with a Narcissist?

It Ain't Personal

The High Price of Peace at Any Cost

Narcissists Can't Be Rehabilitated

Your Most Fundamental Right

Two Models of Family (Part one of two) Decision Time (Part two)

The Family Tyrant

A Force of Nature

An Accurate Measure of Mental Health ISN'T Lack of Anger

The Last Straw

Savior Complex and Refresher on the Savior Complex

Disproportional Responses...

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