Narcissists Suck

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Excuse Me While I Mix Metaphorial Images

A metaphor that works so well for narcissists: vampires. It is such an accurate metaphor that people will automatically reach for it when trying to describe their personal experiences with a narcissist. So many parallels. If you're here because you've been sucked dry by some smooth-talking vampire then you know this is true.

Another metaphor that works extremely well is that created by the movie, "The Matrix". In order to really understand malignant narcissism you have to swallow the "red pill". Only by allowing yourself to see stark, unpleasant reality will you ever be able to get a grasp of the situation you're in with the narcissist in order to free yourself. You have been stuck in a macabre dance with the narcissist only because you have allowed him/her to define reality for you. It is a false reality. It casts a rosy glow over the actions and motives of the narcissist while it dumps mud on yours if you dare to step out of their reality even momentarily. So, if you decide to swallow the "blue pill", then, please, just navigate to here.

Look for future musings on the subject of narcissism. In the meantime, your homework assignment is:

Watch "The Matrix" with malignant narcissism in mind and look for the parallels. Even if you've already seen the movie....watch it again.
Now, consider Morpheus' statement to Neo as you decide which pill you've decided to swallow. You can substitute "The Matrix" with "Malignant Narcissism" to better see the parallel:

The Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you're inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system and that makes them our enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it.



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