Some Recommended Reading

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Here are a few recommendations for books that can help you deal with the narcissist(s) in your life.


The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor Payson available at Amazon.com.


Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry by Albert J. Bernstein. This book gets mixed reviews for its extensive use of the vampire metaphor. Some find it tedious, others entertaining. I am one who found it entertaining. The book has quite a bit of practical advice which is often hard to come by in books on this topic. The book seems targeted more toward those dealing with narcissists and other personality-disordered people in the workplace. The advice can apply to other contexts as well.


In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K. Simon. This is a must have book for anyone. We all have had to deal with manipulative people and can be assured we'll have to again. This book takes a very frank view of the subject and helps to clarify what is really happening when someone is trying to manipulate you. Click on the link for more extensive and informative reviews of the book.

I have read quite a few books in my quest to grapple with malignant narcissism. The three listed above have been of the most practical help to me. Perhaps they will help you.


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